You Are Not Worthy

You are worth it. You deserve the best. You are amazing and worthy to be loved. You are perfect.

When I hear these words being thrown around today in society, I can’t help but want to believe them and say, “you know, I DO deserve the best… I am worthy to be loved.” But the reality is, I’m not. And neither are you. None of us are.

For the past few years I’ve heard these phrases over and over again, directed especially towards young women, trying to build us up to be the strong, sophisticated, independent women we are supposed to be. But it has always rubbed me the wrong way and proposed a lot of questions in my mind. What makes me worthy? What have I done to deserve this sort of “entitlement”?

My whole life I felt pressured to be perfect at everything I did, whether it was martial arts, school, or day-to-day activities. I felt the weight of the world on my shoulders as a young teenager, and I thought it was in my power to control how I performed. I strived for control on my life, making myself my own god, and not relying on the sovereignty of God in every situation. I convinced myself that I was in fact worthy, and my sin was minuscule compared to everyone else’s.

It wasn’t until my sophomore year of college, my world came tumbling down right before my eyes. Miserably failing almost all of my classes, I called my mom bawling, proclaiming my life was falling apart. In that moment, God opened my eyes and smacked me in the face with my sin. My identity was not in my Heavenly Father; instead, I had been looking to school to bring me happiness and fulfill my needs, when in reality, nothing of this world can do such a thing. Suddenly I realized, I am not perfect. I am not worthy. But my Heavenly Father is–He died a gruesome death on my behalf that I might be savedPaul said,

None is righteous, no, not one; no one understands; no one seeks for God. All have turned aside; together they have become worthless; no one does good, not even one. (Romans 3:10-12 ESV).

We deserve nothing. We are worthless and the chief of sinners. We cannot seek after God because our nature cannot fathom something as beloved as Him. But, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. How FREEING is that? We don’t have to be perfect, because Christ is perfect for us.

I preach this to people almost daily, and I get mad at myself. How can I preach this to people when I don’t live this way? I idolize anything and everything, and put people, electronics, grades, work, exercise, and food on a pedestal where only Christ can be. In our nature, we are idol-making factories; John Calvin once stated, “Every one of us, even from his mother’s womb, is a master craftsman of idols.” 

I struggle with thinking “I’m not good enough to be a Christian.” Being a Christian isn’t about being prideful in your walk with Christ and hiding your struggles; it’s about admitting you are broken, and confessing you need a Savior.  Brothers and sisters, there is good news“Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come!” (2 Cor. 5:17 ESV). It should have been us on that cross, paying the penalty of our sins, which is a horrendous death. But instead, Christ gave Himself up for His bride, and selflessly, without sin, bore the wrath we deserve.

So no, we aren’t worthy, but in Christ, we are worth it. We are worthy to be loved. It is nothing we do, but everything He has done. He wants the best for his children. So, humble yourselves before the Lord. Confess your sins, repent from your ways, and turn to Christ. He is the only way to true happiness and everlasting life.

It is finished.

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  1. AMEN!!! Very well written with much truth! Your wisdom is far beyond your years. I’m so honored to be in your life and call you my sister in Christ ? (and daughter ?)

  2. I am thankful to our Lord for leading me to this blog. It is like Jesus is reaching out and putting His finger on my heart. I’ve wept through this article both times that I’ve read it. It is a constant question of mine. What makes me worthwhile? Nothing. Of myself. ONLY what Christ has done for me makes me worthy. Of anything. And, every time, I realize that I love Him all the more for His sacrifice for me! Jesus has surely given you a ministry of healing with words! And I know this is confirmed through the way Holy Spirit touches me to the very core by the words He has given you to express what He wants to say. I am thankful: For your willingness to be used as His servant and forever for His love and the way He tells me!

  3. Hi! I just found you through Thank you for this article. I just became involved in a bible study using a book from a well known author that after the first week I knew she was teaching wrongly. I couldn’t verbalize what I knew to be wrong but I knew it was contrary to God’s word. You have put into words what I know now is wrong in that book. Now I have something I can share and better explain why I didn’t agree with the author. I’m going to start following your blog. 🙂

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